I was the most useless great basketball player you ever met.

As a kid I could spin a layup, run the ball through my legs, throw a behind-the-back pass, I’d lower the net and do the dunks I saw in NBA Jam. I had every move that gets a reaction on a playground. Then you'd put me in an actual game and I was a liability. I'd dribble into traffic, panic, throw it away. All those hours, and I never learned the only thing that mattered, which is how to actually play. How to read what's in front of you. How to think.

Nobody ever told me there's a difference between practicing and just messing around. I figured if I was always holding a ball, I was getting better. I wasn't. I was getting better at the stuff that doesn't win games. It took me until I was a grown man to even see the difference, and I'll be honest, I still catch myself doing the adult version of it. Busy all week, moving constantly, not actually getting anywhere.

Sunday it's pouring. It's the kind of afternoon where you either do nothing or drive to an indoor playground, drop thirty bucks, and stand against the wall watching your kid bounce. I took Kiki to the YMCA instead. Seven dollars. Two hours. We shot hoops.

Part of this was for me, and I'm done pretending otherwise. I take him to jiu-jitsu twice a week, Persian school, swimming. Those are his. I'm the driver. I wanted one thing that was also mine, something we actually do together instead of me waiting it out on my phone in a lobby. A dad who's having his own fun is better company than a dad who's killing time.

So we worked the boring stuff. He wanted to do the fancy crossover he saw online and I let him, once, then dragged him back. When we took a break there were older kids running a real game on the next court, so I pointed out the one with all the handles who kept turning it over, and the one who never did anything flashy and was quietly running the whole floor. Kiki clocked the difference. That was the whole point, and it went in.

He's a natural, which is its own thing to sit with. Watching him pick up in an afternoon what took me years to even understand. He's going to be a real problem for me in about six years, and I cannot wait. The day he beats me clean, fair and square, no excuses, is a day I'm actually looking forward to.

I walked in feeling like garbage from the gray. I walked out lighter than I'd felt all week. That has never once happened to me at a trampoline park.

Every time I want to take Kiki to a community centre, looking up the website becomes a hassle. The YMCA keeps its schedule in a PDF buried three clicks deep. The city hides every drop-in inside a program finder that fights you the whole way. I'd find the link, lose the link, then re-find it the next Saturday. Every single week.

So I put all of it on one page. Every YMCA branch schedule for Hamilton, Burlington, and Brantford, the downtown pool schedule, and the City of Hamilton and City of Burlington program finders. One bookmark. The PDF ones you can screenshot and stick on the fridge. The finders let you filter by age and day so you can actually land on a Tuesday-night something.

It's not fancy and it's not a secret database. It's just every link I was already hunting for, sitting in one spot so I stop hunting.

Now when somebody in the group chat asks if the pool's open Saturday, I send one link instead of going on a twenty-minute expedition. It's free. Bookmark it.

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